Woman Backed for Going Against Parents’ Wishes and Renovated

A woman has been backed for going on with her plans on renovating her childhood home, going against her parents’ wishes.

Published to Reddit’s popular r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/throwawayhouseparent shared her story to get the opinions of the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 5,000 upvotes and 600 comments.

The Redditor began her story by saying that she bought her childhood home from her parents about six months ago. She wrote that her parents had a tough time getting up and down the stairs and thought it was the right time to find something smaller.

The OP (original poster)’s parents wanted to keep the house in the family and were originally going to sell it to her sister because she had plans to have children. However, she wasn’t ready to purchase a home.

In a post going viral on social media, members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum have defended a woman for renovating her childhood home despite her family’s wishes.
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The OP said, “My parents have spent a lot of money over the years fixing the house to their tastes, and the house is very beautiful. But me and my mothers tastes are very different. Plus because my father took so long doing each part of the house himself there are certain parts of the house that look more outdated then the rest. So I’ve been making plans to renovate most of the rooms the only part of the house that is remaining the same as it is now is the master bedroom.

“While I had my parents and sister over for dinner last weekend I told them about what I’d be changing. They all lost it on me saying that I was destroying the memories we’ve made in the house. I disagree since I have the right to make the house my own, and by their logic they shouldn’t have changed anything after they bought it from my mothers grandparents,” she continued.

The OP thought things had calmed down but found out that her father attempted to fire her contractor. He said that he was the “actual owner” of the house. When she confronted her father about it, he said that he would have never sold it to her knowing about her plans to renovate the house. Since their argument, the OP hasn’t spoken to her family due to them calling to yell at her non-stop.

Newsweek reached out to u/throwawayhouseparent for comment.

Home renovations are not cheap. According to homeadvisor.com, the average remodel and renovation costs about $47,800.

Are you thinking about renovating your home? According to allstate.com, you should create a plan before beginning the renovations. They also suggest creating a budget that’s right for you, hiring a contractor that you trust, speaking to your insurance company before and after your renovation for coverage, beginning the demolition process and working on what’s behind the walls including plumbing, electrical, heating and air-conditioning. The next steps include painting, installing the cabinets and putting on the final touches.

Redditor’s were quick to defend the OP.

“[Not the a**hole] it’s your house. It’s that simple,” wrote u/Detozi, receiving the top comment with over 8,000 comments.

U/NotTwitchy questioned, “[Not the a**hole]. What, they expected you to live like it’s 1987, 1995, 2002, 2005, 2014, and 2020 forever?”

“[Not the a**hole]. Your dad is for trying to to sabotage the updates. It’s hard, and I can understand their feelings. But they also need a healthier level of attachment to sentimental things. Things change. Houses change. They’re going to have to deal with that,” u/BusyDadGaming explained.

“[Not the a**hole]. I’d go ahead and change the locks asap as I’d hate for your parents to come to your house when you’re not there to interfere with your plans,” u/JBB2002902 warned.